Mairee tarah Meena bhee aik lambee qad kee larkee hay aur nehayathee haseen hay aur yahee wajah thee keh wooh puray khandan main passand keejathee thee.Khair ham logon nay dinner keya kuch gap shap kee aur apnay apnaykamray main sogay.Well, on second thoughts there are people who’d still call me a baby and their number is more than two, but I digress again… In my experience of talking to, consoling and counselling scores of young people like you, I’ve observed that there are three golden rules of dealing with parents who are real tough nuts to crack, and I thought I’ll lay them down today, fuming as I am. And you have no idea about the power of that belief. Again, you need to choose the option that makes you the least unhappy: Option #1: Embark on a radically new life.Have you noted that I said “dealing with”, not “convincing”? A life with the man/woman you love, a life of absolute freedom, but one which offers drastically lower levels of material comfort than you currently enjoy.Option #2: Decide that you won’t be able to adjust to the above reality of a reduced standard of living and say goodbye to the man/woman you love. Let’s take the example of your parents’ decision of allowing you to marry your girlfriend/boyfriend.There’s nothing wrong with choosing either of these options. Make a rational, practical and well-thought out decision, and prepare yourself mentally for the consequences. That analysis might happen in our minds entirely unconsciously. I think it’s very clear that their child’s happiness – while important – is not a determining factor for them so far as this decision is concerned.
Mainay sohca keh peshab kaybahany bike rok loon laiken ithnee rath ko bahen kay sath kaheen rukna munasibnaheen thaa.
His parents even want dowry which my parents are unable to provide. On the average I get about three such queries every day and they make me sad and angry. I feel – what in the name of God are we doing to our younger generation? It’s not about choosing your boyfriend or girlfriend over your parents. If neither you nor your boyfriend/girlfriend is earning – work on that before working on anything else.
How can some dogmatic parents have so little regard for the happiness of – not a random guy on the street but – their own child! If your parents are paying for you, you’d better do as they say.
Meena kee ungleyan kuch aur neechay hogaiee theen aur lund keejarhon per mehsoos horahee thee.
Meena ko yaqeenan ehsas hochuka thaa keh unkeeungleyan mairay lund kay qareeb thee.