You are afraid to bring things up to him because you don’t know how he’ll react, and saying nothing is better than saying something and having him get angry.
So you suffer in silence and hope that somehow things will change, that somehow this relationship will magically transform into a healthy, happy one.
I saw some signs of trouble early on, but convinced myself that it would all work out because it simply had to. As time went on things only got worse, and throughout the course of our year-long relationship I turned into a dark shadow of my former self.
I was no longer fun, outgoing, optimistic, confident, and full of light. I may have been miserable with him, but I believed that without him I would be beyond repair, so I stayed. I stayed even though he gave me every reason not to.
Instead I felt constantly on edge, painfully insecure, drained, and sad. In the end, he was the one who left, and as expected I felt gutted.
You try even harder to get more of that feeling, and feel like a failure when it doesn’t come.Whether it’s in our own relationships, or in the relationships of those around us, the first step to stopping domestic abuse is recognizing it.The red flags below are indicators that a relationship may become abusive. However, when several of these occur in combination, they can be predictive of a pattern of abuse in order to gain power and control.No matter how hard you try, you never feel like you’re enough or like you’re doing things right.You live in a constant state of unease, of second-guessing yourself, of trying to be better and good enough.